Living with depression is dismal. It feels like you’re trying to move through cement. I always think unless you have depression or someone you love does it’s hard to imagine what it feels like.
Thinking back to depressive episodes and all the symptoms make me shudder. You’re in this pit, and it feels like there is nothing you can do. Absolutely nothing. It’s like you have a different brain, and there is no other way of thinking about your life other than what’s the point.
If you have depression, it’s nothing you’d ever wish on your worst enemy. Even if nobody gets it, you get it, and it sucks balls.
Depression makes you feel drained, you can’t concentrate, and everything feels hopeless. You’re so sad and uncomfortable, and you can’t shake it.
You feel completely and totally fucked up.
Here are 4 ways to deal with depression now.
1. Get out and get some sunlight
Sunlight can change your mood, and sunlight can also help boost your serotonin.
And the sun is free!
Try to get free sunlight for at least 15 minutes a day. If you’re at work, take a 15-minute break outside. Enjoy the sunlight. Just make sure you have sunscreen on your face, so you don’t get a melasma mustache.
If you’re at home and begin to feel sad or hopeless, get up and take a walk outside. You know how I feel about getting outside. You gots to do it. It’s muy good for you and free sunlight.
If you’re inside and can’t go outside, open your blinds to get some light in your room. Yes, I know you can’t move, and you want to curl up in a ball and die but open them on the count of three. 1-2-3 open! Ok now sit close to the window where the light is coming through.
2. Write about your depression.
Writing down your thoughts and feelings have been proven to help a lot of people who are living with depression. Writing down feelings can help you manage your depression. You can figure out what your triggers are. Maybe it’s the sound of your mother’s voice. Maybe you looked at your exes Instagram. You’ll begin to recognize what makes you spiral.
This writing should be private, so be totally honest with yourself and write exactly how you feel. A lot of people call this journaling. I call it writing shit down to get out the evil thoughts and feelings.
But since I’m trying to help you let’s call it journaling. God bless.
3. Do not isolate.
Don’t let your depression keep you away from those who love and know you the best. Call up a friend and invite them over or even a night out somewhere fun.
The worst thing you can do while dealing with depression is to isolate yourself from your family or friends. These people are your support system. They do not read minds, so they don’t know how you feel because you haven’t shared it with them.
I know I hate asking for help, but the people closest to you will understand and if they don’t fuck ‘em.
4. What are your wins and strengths?
Take a moment to think or write down everything you’ve done that you consider to be a win.
Don’t make an excuse, saying you don’t have any strengths or wins. Everyone does. You just have to take a look at yourself and recognize the things that you are good at. Don’t be shy! Get a little cocky for this.
You might be an amazing cook or a good friend, and like to help others. Maybe you make the best prank phone calls. Or you’re supportive, creative, trustworthy, whatever the list can go on and on. You want to find qualities in yourself or things you have accomplished, and write them down.
Include small wins! This could be anything from taking a pilates class to finding twenty bucks in an old purse. It doesn’t matter how little it is. It counts, it’s a win!
Every time depression gives you those nasty negative thoughts, take out your list of wins and strengths, and read out loud. I don’t care if you’re at Costco, let your freak flag fly to remind yourself what a motherfucking badass you are. Depression ain’t got you sister.
This is your list. You don’t have to share it with anyone but who cares there’s no shame in your list. Yeah your list rocks.
Let me know if you do any of these things. If not, what do you do when you’re in a depressive episode? Maybe you howl at the moon. Whatever works. Write yours in the comments and share this BECAUSE SHARING IS CARING!